Jealousy Has Nothing To Do With Love, Part 2

PART 2
YOUR LOVER IS JEALOUS WITH YOU?
Do you really love her? Do you really care for her? Talk to her and let her know your feelings. Be close to her. Do not let her make the first move in the right direction alone.

She is hurt, isn’t she? Or at least this is how she feels. Have you never experienced those states? Do not criticize her, do not disapprove her behavior now. Show her your love for her, and show her that she is unique for you.

Do you really realize your lover’s uniqueness? How about the uniqueness of your relationship? Each person has “something” mysterious and characteristic.

Close your eyes for a second. Can you feel your lover? Do you know it is her? How can there be comparisons then? Have you ever thought that a fresia is more beautiful than a rose? Such a question would not make any sense.

WHEN YOU LOVE, BE LOVE
Half measurements attract half measurements. Do you think she is suffering? Do all you can to make her understand that you are 100% present in her life, that you are completely fascinated by her.

Because you are, aren’t you? Understand her desires and fulfill them even before she has a chance to utter them. The joy will not linger in making itself seen on her sweet face. Where could jealousy now fit into? There is nothing worse than a common relationship.

Do you want to experience the extraordinary? OFFER IT! Be the Prince Charming in her life, the unforgettable man, the love of her life. She has been waiting for you all her life.

Act nobly and self-giving, be inventive and full of surprises. Do not get worried, she will never be bored. You can make visible your presence in her life without words, in silence, in the most unexpected and surprising ways.

Do you keep the fire of your passion alive with gestures of love and affection? Have you ever wondered what she would say if one day she comes home and finds flowers everywhere, even in the most unexpected places? In the drawer, on the pillow, in the kitchen, rose petals in the tub filled with warm and inviting water… Wouldn’t she respond with greater love to such manifestations of affection and tenderness?

AT ALL TIMES, KEEP IN MIND THAT SMALL GESTURES RESCUE GREAT LOVE-AFFAIRS.

Jealousy Has Nothing To Do With Love, Part 1

Have you ever suffered because of jealousy? How many times have you been jealous so far? It is difficult to count these occasions, isn’t it? Are you disturbed, annoyed by this state, or maybe you feel comfortable in it? Are you concerned with it, or it makes you indifferent?

Are you upset when your lover controls permanently your every move, or when they call you at work every five minutes? Or when your lover traces each movement of your eyes, ready to “catch” you when your eyes meet someone else’s eyes?

What can we do? Is this a disease? Or is it merely a caprice between lovers? Regardless of the way jealousy appears, there are always two constants, the two hypostasis in which one is going to suffer, posing in victim, and the other appearing in the light of a merciless executioner, cause of suffering.

In the nightmare of the tensions issued from jealousy, how could we find again the harmony of the couple, discovering in ourselves the true and real LOVE?

JEALOUSY IS IN FACT OUR FEAR OF LOSING OUR LOVER
When jealousy appears, the tensions in a couple enhance. The first and most important thing to do at this point is to communicate with our lover. We should have the faith and the courage to tell things for what they are.

Maybe our lover does not realize what we are going through. And maybe we did not understand properly his or her real intentions. It is time to get closer to one another, confessing our feelings with great honesty.

However, this does not mean making a scene, blasting out critically or reproachfully, but merely share our concerns with our lover, in our mutual effort of deepening the love-relationship.

IF YOUR LOVER LOVES YOU, SHE WILL BE WITH YOU FOREVER
If your lover loves you, she will be with you forever, if not you really have got nothing to lose. The relationships in a couple are very complex. If you loved the other not only as your lover, but also as your sister, daughter or closest friend could you still be jealous with her?

FIND AGAIN THE MAGIC OF THE BEGINNING
If she has fallen for someone else, why shouldn’t you try to conquer her again so that she will fall again in love with you?

If you used to be the conquerer, now simply LOVE! Try to understand that love is the fundamental energy of Creation and that it cannot be limited in its manifestation.

Love is free to come up and blossom into any open heart and is free to pour over anybody. This flowing of love awakens as a result more love, and the numb hearts come back to life. Even it is difficult, if we meditate constantly on these things, our inner horizon will broaden and we will open our hearts to the pure and genuine LOVE.

This experience will enrich yourself and this inner richness will attract your lover even more. Love brings about more love. And so it should be. Begin by loving yourself. Accept yourself and make peace with yourself, getting to know yourself. This is how you will discover the source of your loves to be.