Tantra and sexology, although quite different in their purposes and approaches to sexuality (one is spiritual, and the other experimental) surprisingly meet in certain areas.
Sexology, the medical science studying human sexuality in its normal and abnormal physical, physiological and psychic manifestations may be said to have a “horizontal” approach, quite different from the “vertical” outlook on the erotic act promoted by the Tantric teachings.
From the tantric point of view, sexuality is considered the “brain” which processes the alchimic transformations of the sexual substances into energy. Consequently, Tantra may be said to begin at the border of sexuality, taking it further.
Moreover, sexology gives many descriptions of orgasmic experiences quite resembling to the special states of consciousness described in Tantra.
There is a truth which cannot be denied by any of the feminist movements: ‘man is easily impressed by the beauty of the feminine body and appreciates this very much in a woman; the woman may love a man for his intelligence, or for the protection he might offer her, but a man will always appreciate a woman’s intelligence if combined with beauty.”
The reactions of a man are sensibly different from those of a woman; when a woman admires a man, and he manages to seduce her, his physical appearance is no longer so important. The love a man has for a woman, though, is inseparable from desire. And the more beautiful the woman, the greater the desire.
Eroticism lights the spark of the senses, so that they will cause the fire of the union, man is nurtured by the beauty of the woman’s body, and the woman is not mistaken when granting so much importance to this aspect.
Was it not that the woman’s body was created, in its details, in order to cause the admiration and desire of the man?!
However, according to the contemporary tradition and for reaching a profound sexual harmony, it is advisable that we try the following:
- supress any sexual taboos
- be aware of your genitalia
- the aspiration towards a spiritual eroticism
- self-sensibility, both physical and psychical
- strengthening the intimate muscles
- the awareness of the fact that the woman is supposed to have a more active role during lovemaking.
The specialists in sexology define orgasm as “a state of trance, accompanied by the temporary loss of the contact with reality”. Tantra considers orgasm as a beneficial state of expansion of the consciousness, in which the habitual limitations of the human being disappear, the mind is reduced to silence, and one experiences the ecstasy.
The complete abandon, the transcendence of time and space, the state of unifying the opposites – these and other things assimilate orgasm with a metaphysical experience.
Therefore, in Tantra, enlightenment is also named “cosmic orgasm”.